Why is Parting Properly considered so trustworthy?  The answer is simple.  There is a right way and a wrong way to end a marital relationship.  Parting Properly is the right way.

Parting Properly minimizes conflict, rejects litigation, fosters cooperation, reduces expense, and is impartial in guiding both parties to the solution to each problem encountered in divorce.

 Parting Properly’s enlightened method for bringing couples and children through divorce explains why Parting Properly is considered trustworthy.  Parting Properly’s willingness to put a cap on fees charged to complete the divorce adds to Parting Properly’s credibility.

In short, Parting Properly provides a compassionate,  modern alternative to the trauma of traditional court divorce.  Parting Properly empowers couples to benefit from cooperation and civility.  Attorneys and judges are taken out of the loop when it comes to making decisions.  The unpredictability of a divorce judgment is avoided, and couples control the divorce process, with the resources of Parting Properly fully and completely supporting them.

The alternative to Parting Properly is often a separate attorney for each party, whose combative, adversarial advocacy can cause conflict and delay, increase attorneys fees, and drag the parties down into the bowels of the doomsday divorce court.

Trust in any relationship is crucial.  Couples contemplating divorce will, almost universally, confirm that a loss of trust has been a significant factor in bringing them to the state where they have decided to end their marital relationship.

Incompatibility, annoying behavior, differing philosophies of life or goals, arguments over finances or children, and failure to communicate are often cited as the basis for the disagreements, or loss of affection or growing apart, or the failure to meet each other’s needs, or the intractable unwillingness to change, or a thousand other complaints with each other.  But, underlying all those rationalizations to explain the difficulty in which the divorcing couple finds themselves is a lack of trust in each other.


The answer to that question is not always readily apparent.  It can be said that it is usually a lack of trust in each other, in one form or another, that gets couples to the point of deciding to get a divorce.  That should give them a clue as to how important trust is in a relationship.  Yet, because of fear and uncertainty as they confront divorce, they still do not recognize that “trust” in a business relationship with the professional upon whom they will rely for decisions affecting their lives and the lives of their children is critical.

The trustworthiness of the professional providing counsel, which will be relied upon, is the key to successfully navigating the divorce, whether it is a contested divorce, an uncontested divorce, or a mediated divorce.  It is the key to successfully structuring child custody, child visitation, and child support.  It is the key to fairly dividing the divorce assets and allocating the divorce liabilities.  It is the key to reaching a mutually beneficial marital settlement agreement and a co-parenting agreement in the best interest of the children.

When asked how they selected their divorce legal counsel, couples who find themselves in the doomsday divorce court with separate divorce attorneys, often cite promises made to them of uncontested divorce assistance, quick and cheap divorce, flat rate divorce, family court mediation, or even free divorce (because the other side will be forced to pay).  They cite information received from friends or family about some divorce attorney they have heard of, or information garnered from the impressive website of the family lawyer they found on the internet, or the promises they received in the free divorce consultation about low cost divorce or divorce mediation, or their reliance on answers to questions regarding uncontested divorce in California, or their belief in a divorce attorney’s promises of low cost divorce.  Or, even more surprising, they admit their naivete in believing the promises their divorce attorney made that the judge’s decision in their favor could be predicted.

Couples acknowledge that they often accepted advice and guidance and acted upon it because they were afraid not to accept it, and they were not confident enough to take responsibility for their own decisions. They often cite the fact that they were hoping for divorce without court appearance or some form of collaborative divorce or divorce mediation that would get them through the process quickly, and they were fearful that they would make a mistake if they tried a do it yourself divorce in California or objected or acted counter to the advice and direction of their divorce attorney advocate, to whom they had paid a large sum of money.

It is not surprising that, even when they were willing to pay thousands of dollars to a divorce attorney who promised to make their decisions for them and to get them what they wanted, they would never admit to fully trusting that divorce attorney.

They knew that there is a built-in conflict of interest between divorce attorneys who do not put a cap on their fees and their clients.  Since fees are normally based upon the hours of billable time that divorce lawyers expend on behalf of their clients, it follows that the greater the conflict and delay in the divorce proceedings, the greater the number of hours that will be spent in finalizing the divorce and the higher will be the fees that the divorce attorney can charge.  Obviously, clients do not want conflict and delay.  How then do they end up with divorce lawyers who can make more money by fostering conflict in divorce than they would make if they fostered negotiated divorce settlements?

There is a simple answer: Most divorce attorneys and family lawyers or divorce mediators will not put a cap on fees they will charge their clients.  Trying to reduce divorce fees and costs, clients want to know what will the divorce cost them.  But, since very few family law attorneys will put a cap on their fees, they have to take their chances.

When couples contemplating a divorce search for divorce attorneys or divorce mediators on the internet, what they find are the websites of a hundred competing divorce attorneys and family law firms, some of which have paid large sums to have their websites appear at the tops of the first pages displayed by the search engines.

Trying to find even one family law website that offers clients a cap on the fees the clients will be charged is a daunting, or, perhaps, impossible task.  That leaves clients vulnerable to fees resulting from conflict and delay in finalizing the divorce.  It makes it hard for a client to completely trust the professional from whom the client receives advice when the client fears uncontrolled fees for the divorce.

That is not to say that most attorneys lack integrity and will purposely file unnecessary motions or will needlessly argue over child custody issues, child visitation issues, and child support issues, or property division, or liability allocation, or alimony (spousal support), but the fact remains that the more conflict and delay there is in completing a divorce the higher the fees can be.

How much does it cost to hire a divorce lawyer?

The national average cost of a divorce is about $15,000.00 per person, including attorney’s fees, court costs, and the cost of hiring outside experts such as real estate appraisers, tax advisers, or child custody evaluators.  Posted Sep. 19. 2018

Lawyers.com Reported a Survey by Martindale-Nolo (one of the prime attorneys reference sites) conducted in 2018.


How Much Does Divorce Cost in California?

The most expensive type of divorce in California is one involving children, according to our survey results. When a California divorce involved child custody and support issues, the average cost was $26,300, including $22,200 in attorney’s fees. Compare these numbers to divorces without children in California, where the average cost dropped to $17,100, including $12,600 in attorney’s fees.

Parting Properly’s fees for getting a couple through divorce average less than half of the average fees paid by couples who do not use Parting Properly.

How Long Does Divorce Take in California?

The average divorce in California took almost 15 months to resolve, with most of our readers reporting that it took from 8 months to 20 months.

A few notes on timing: In California, the soonest your divorce can be resolved is six months from the time the divorce papers are served, because the state has a built-in six-month waiting period.

Parting Properly gets divorcing couples through the divorce process in less than half the average time it takes couples to get through divorce without Parting Properly.

How can couples decide the best way to divorce?

Well, they can start by searching for Parting Properly’s Ideal Divorce Solution.  The Parting Properly website https://www.partingproperly.com/ will not usually appear on the top of the first page displayed by a search engine in response to an inquiry for legal separation, or divorce mediation, or divorce attorneys near me, or divorce mediators near me, or uncontested divorce in California, or even low cost divorce, or mediation for divorce.  It will be necessary to input a search query for Parting Properly.

If couples contemplating divorce do find Parting Properly on the internet, they can, at no cost, call Parting Properly and ask a Parting Properly divorce mentor about the Parting Properly Ideal Divorce Solution.

Parting Properly has a divorce office near them, with offices available throughout the state,

The question is, how, in that call and the subsequent no-cost face to face conference, can a couple develop trust in the trustworthiness of Parting Properly’s method of getting couples through the divorce process quickly, efficiently, and at the least cost.

How will they gain confidence that Parting Properly’s Ideal Divorce Solution, will guide them to avoid conflict and reach agreement?  How will they develop the faith that Parting Properly’s involvement will result in a fair and mutually beneficial outcome for each of them?

There are only three questions they need to ask the Parting Properly Divorce Mentor.  Parting Properly’s answers will produce in the questioner trust, confidence, and faith that Parting Properly is the right choice.  The questions they should ask Parting Properly are the same questions they should ask any other person or firm they are considering hiring to bring them through the divorce.  However, the answers they receive from Parting Properly will be very different from the answers they will receive from divorce attorneys and family law firms.

The answers they will receive from Parting Properly will validate the couple’s decision to trust in the trustworthiness of Parting Properly, and will give them confidence and faith in the Parting Properly Divorce Mentor who will empower them and guide them to resolve all the issues that arise in the process of reaching the most beneficial outcome for both of them and their children.

The three questions are:

  1. What is your track record in representing both a husband and the wife, together, rather than representing one of them against the other?

Most divorce firms will not be able to answer that question.  They will not have any track record. Their failure to provide an answer may diminish the trust a couple can have in employing them to bring the couple through the divorce without the trauma of battle, and with all the things the couple most values intact.

Many family law firms and divorce attorneys tout their expertise and success in advocating for one of the parties.  Not many will have any track record of empowering both parties to make fair and common-sense decisions.

Almost all family law attorneys will try to impress a prospective client with promises of what they can do for the client that hires them, rather than what they can do to bring the couple together in a mutually beneficial way.  They trumpet their ability to fight against other, adversarial, and frequently combative attorneys, rather than their successes in moving quickly to obtain the resolution of differences between spouses.  In suggesting they can get what the prospective clients want, they ignore the unpredictability of what a judge will do in deciding divorce matters.

A Parting Properly Divorce Mentor, however, can respond to that question by pointing out that Parting Properly provides guidance and assistance to both the husband and the wife, together, and is totally unbiased toward one or the other.  The Parting Properly Divorce Mentor will emphasize Parting Properly’s track record.  One couple after another has been able to avoid conflict, save money and time, and reach a fair and satisfactory outcome, protecting children and enabling both parties to embark on a future with promise.  Parting Properly’s answer will validate each couple’s trust in Parting Properly’s expertise and ability to empower the couple to maintain control over the process, resolve conflicts, and successfully move on with their lives.

  1. What is the cost of the divorce going to be?

Most family law firms that have not rejected litigation actually flaunt their success in battling other attorneys.  Such firms will be totally unable to provide an accurate estimate of the costs that will be incurred by each of the spouses.  Their response to the question of how much is the divorce going to cost will be, “It depends.”  That is not a response that will provide any sense of relief to the divorcing couple and will not diminish concern that increased conflict and delay increases fees.  And, it will certainly not increase the level of trust.

Parting Properly will answer, “We will put a cap on our fees.  We can’t tell you what the exact cost will be, but we can tell you what the cost will not be.  The cost will not be greater than what we agree upon with you about the cap on our fees.  Parting Properly is willing to put a cap on the total fees that it charges.  In capping its fees, Parting Properly aligns its interests exactly with the couple’s interests.  Both Parting Properly and the clients are focused upon getting the divorce completed, with all agreements in place, in the shortest time and for the least possible cost.

Parting Properly can cap the fees that will be charged because both Parting Properly and the couple have agreed not to litigate.  Without the prospect of the unknown and unlimited cost of litigation, it is possible to estimate with accuracy how much time the Parting Properly Divorce Mentor will have to spend to bring the couple through the divorce.

Parting Properly has had enough experience bringing other couples through the divorce process within reasonable time frames so that Parting Properly has no hesitation in putting a cap on the fees that will be charged to the couple asking the question.  That alone is a basis for trust.  Putting a cap on the fees validates the couple’s trust in the trustworthiness of Parting Properly.  The couple can be assured that Parting Properly will make the divorce process as quick, painless, and inexpensive as possible.

  1. How much training have you had in dealing with the emotional aspects of divorce?

Most divorce attorneys cannot honestly respond that they have had any.  A few may claim to have received a few hours of training.

Divorce is made difficult because of the emotions that are involved, not because of the legalities.  Divorce is not rocket science.  If couples do not litigate there are only two rules they must follow. First: They must honestly disclose to each other all the information about finances; and Second: Any agreement regarding children must be for the best interests and welfare of the children.  Other than those two rules, parties that do not litigate are free to decide matters on the basis of fairness and common-sense rather than on formulas or legislatively established criteria.

If a divorce attorney confesses that he or she has received no significant training in dealing with emotional issues that often interfere with resolving issues in divorce, a potential client may assume that the divorce attorney will concentrate on the areas for which he or she has received training: aggressive advocacy and the interpretation of the law.  That will not provide much of a basis for the development of trust in the attorney’s capabilities to resolve issues without conflict and to hold down costs.

A Parting Properly Divorce Mentor will answer that he or she has received thousands of hours of training, and, in most cases, has had years of experience dealing with the very emotions that make avoiding conflict and settling issues difficult.  This is, perhaps, the best reason for trusting the Parting Properly Divorce Mentor.  Rather than fighting over the definitions set forth in laws passed by legislators that did not even unanimously approve them, a couple can reach decisions based upon fairness, common-sense, and practicality.  Parting Properly Divorce Mentors have been trained and have the expertise and skill necessary to deal with emotional issues and to bring the parties to the most advantageous result.  Parting Properly takes care of the logistics and legalities, and Parting Properly Divorce Mentors get couples through divorce quickly by never wasting either time or money.

Couples contemplating divorce can trust Parting Properly to do everything necessary during the divorce process to justify their trust.